The flute, drum and our heart are connected.  The flute is a masculine energy and its element is air.  The drum is a feminine energy and connected to the earth.  They meet in the heart. 

The young men were encouraged to play the flute – “go find you songs – sit under a tree in nature and listen to the natural sounds of the winds, the birds and nature's sounds, and just play.  Play a little bit each day or so – at first you will make squawky sounds – be patient because the learning happens in the space – the heart space between your playing.  Your songs are in your heart – don’t play anyone else’s songs, find your songs, which are the sweetest songs.”  When they found their songs, they would play for the maidens and these songs would touch the heart, thus the term “Courting flute”. The flute dances in the rhythms of the drum.